Many of our members list anal sex as one of their favourite acts to engage in. It’s not for us to say whether every member who lists it as a favourite has actually tried it.
We’re not here to judge. We’re here to help.
If you’ve never had anal sex before but have been dying to try it, but don’t know where to begin, then we have a few tips and suggestions that will help get both you and your fuck buddy in the mood to try it.
And hey, even if you are a seasoned pro at anal sex, don’t just click away; there might be a few things you didn’t know.
Why do women love anal sex?
Before trying it, it’s important to understand why many women enjoy anal sex. It’s a different tighter sensation then vaginal sex, it’s still a bit of a taboo and it carries an allure of being naughty – no one else but you and your fuck buddy need know that you’ve had anal sex. For women anal sex can feel beyond amazing. It’s deep inside and feels oddly like a mixed up combination of vaginal and clitoral stimulation. The ‘first time for everything’ taboo makes it even more exciting.
BUT (there is always a but), you have to be aware of the potential negatives as well.
Why do women hate anal sex?
There are women who’ve tried anal sex, hated it and have sworn never to do it again. The reasons for this are fairly clear and have a lot to do with the mood both parties were in when they began. It’s not easy to be good at when you have no experience. It’s not just a case of thrusting in and out – it’s not a vagina! If the man isn’t careful, if he doesn’t warm the woman up first and if both parties are not chilled out and horny enough, anal sex can be a painful experience. And of course there is always the risk of mess.
So how do I approach anal sex for the first time?
Back in 2006 an estimated one fourth of all couples in the western hemisphere had tried anal sex. That figure has since risen. And that is because people have gotten better at doing it. So here’s how to explore it for the first time in a relaxed environment and with no fear of something going wrong.
1. No right way
There is not one right way to begin exploring anal sex. However if you’re both new to it, it’s probably wise to start with something a bit smaller then a cock. Try using your fingers first. Many women report getting increasingly turned on when a man starts rimming them or stroking their butt hole with their fingers.
2. Don’t just spring it
9 times out of 10, it’s not wise to suddenly stick your dick where no dick has gone before when you’re new to anal sex. An unprepared woman might feel pain even if it was unintentional and they might even feel slightly violated as they didn’t initiate it. Read your fuck buddy’s body language and speak openly about it when you want to try it.
3. Start slow
THE BUTT IS NOT A VAGINA. It’s not technically designed for you to stick your cock in it (even though you can). You must go slow to begin with. Penetrate slowly and stop. Watch your partner’s reactions and don’t start again until you’re certain she’s ready for you to.
4. Lube up
We cannot stress this enough! Make sure you use plenty of lubrication before anal sex. The butt is tight and when you have anal sex without lube, the chances increase of small tears occurring inside the anus which can lead to the transmission of STIs and STDs. Be safe, use a condom if you’re doing it for the first time with someone and use plenty of lube!
5. Go to the toilet beforehand
If there’s even the possibility of having anal sex in your minds, make sure she’s emptied her bowels at least an hour beforehand. Women spend a great deal of time on their appearance and smell, and the thought of having an unfortunate incident during anal sex would be enough to put her off it for life if she’s never done it. Be smart and go to the toilet beforehand. Try taking a shower together as well to assure each other that you’re both clean and ready!
6. No fixed positions
The position you try in anal sex depends solely on the couple. Some women like to be on top of the guy when they try it as it enables them to control the level of penetration. Other women prefer to have the guy enter from behind doggy style as it allows a deeper tighter sensation. Whatever the position you try, make sure it’s one you’re both comfortable with. If one position doesn’t work, try a different one.
7. Don’t be afraid to talk
It’s essential that you both feel comfortable during anal sex to enjoy it fully. So talk about it. Communicate what you like and don’t like. If you don’t then your experience will most likely be a memorable one but for all the wrong reasons.
Try before you buy
Follow our advice and see how you get on. And if there’s anything you think we missed, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us – we’d love to hear from you.
Happy fucking!
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