We all love a good fuck. But day after day we’re all programmed with social conditioning that tells us that ‘casual sex’ is a bad thing. You only need to look at the headlines of many tabloids condemning the latest sexual goings on of a celebrity who just so happens to be indulging in a bit of fun with a casual friend. Casual sex, despite its rise and rise in popular culture in the past 20 years is still seen as being seedy. Worse, people who engage in it are often labelled as ‘promiscuous’ and ‘players’. Yet casual sex offers us all some of the greatest mental benefits that enable us to be happier, more rounded and productive individuals. So what are these benefits?
No Strings
Unlike a committed relationship, casual sex doesn’t come with the emotional and physical ties that a couple have. You are free to meet up with your fuck buddy and enjoy each other without having to worry about calling them later. As long as you are both honest with each other from the start then you are free to meet up and fuck when the urge takes hold.
Convenience
Unlike dating, casual sex offers a ‘sex on tap’ convenience that you can rely on whenever you get the horn. It is also beneficial to those who simply do not have the time to spend on dating. Sex is literally a text or phone call away. Dating is fun, but can be frustrating at times with no guarantee of anything at the end. Casual sex is fun, but relieves any frustration because both parties know there is a guarantee of getting laid.
Comfort Factor
We’re only human and sometimes we just a warm body lying next to us in the bedroom. Casual sex serves a real human need to feel a connection with someone even if it’s only for a few hours. It is particularly useful if you are just not ready to pursue a longer relationship in your life but still require the physical interaction we all crave. There is also less pressure to perform – you both know why you’re there so there’s no need to worry. We must stress again here that this is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of.
Can Prep You for Future Relationships
This isn’t a joke. A recent study conducted by the University of Ottawa in Canada and published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality revealed that engaging in casual sex can be mentally beneficial. Focus groups conducted on undergraduates and working professionals showed that 92% of participants understood the differences and subtle nuances between casual and longer lasting relationships. This understanding was derived from the participants either partly or fully engaging in casual sex with a regular fuck buddy, a one night stand, or a friend with benefits. This gave them regular access to sex enabling them to find out what it is they like sexually in turn giving them the confidence and most importantly the ability to find and engage in longer lasting relationships.
Now it is important to highlight here that in 9 out of 10 cases, a fuck buddy arrangement will rarely develop into anything more – DO NOT ENTER THIS KIND OF ARRANGEMENT EXPECTING MORE. However what it can and does do is provide people with a stronger emotional confidence in themselves. This in turn has led people to find the partner of their dreams.
Just remember that casual sex is casual and is at most a stepping stone on the path to finding a long term partner. You are here for fun, not for a relationship.
Remember the Rules…Enjoy the Benefits
Casual sex has many benefits but it also has rules. As long you’re safe, respectful and understanding of your fuck buddy and what the arrangement is, then you can enjoy a stable and healthy lifestyle that offers you the release sex provides without any of the deeper emotional ties that come with a relationship. Understand these rules and who knows, it could help you later in future relationships.
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