An article about a 42 year old woman who openly describes herself as ‘fat, forty and single’ got us thinking about how much body image comes into play during a casual relationship. Are we more likely to be choosey over body type before hooking up or are we less bothered just so long as we’re getting laid?
How much does it matter?
Christine Whelan, the author and subject of the article says that she’s aware that she’s not everyone’s ‘cup of tea’ but that didn’t seem to stop her from having as much recreational sex in 2013 as she could…and did. Christine came out of a ten year monogamous relationship and resolved to go out and have fun off the back of it. She openly acknowledges that she weighs over 300lbs and wears size 28 clothing. So what was it that enabled her to do this? Surely it’s the more classically attractive people that can get sex whenever they want it?
According to Christine she discovered a few specific types of men during her sexual adventures and managed to break them down into categories:
• the bucket list type who wants to fuck a fat chick before he dies
• the older woman type who just like sleeping with older women
• the ‘attracted but ashamed’ types who secretly want to have sex with fat women but are too embarrassed about admitting it openly or being seen with one in public
• the fat fetish type who sees a fat woman merely as a piece of meat with measurements
She had flings and hook ups with men across this spectrum of types but describes one encounter in particular as the moment she realised why she was having so much success despite being initially unsure over what to expect.
Confidence and Self Awareness
When Christine was in bed with one bloke who she describes as being ‘way out of her league’ she asked him what it was about her that attracted him. He simply answered ‘confidence is sexy’.
And that boys and girls is an answer that crops up again and again when people are asked what is it that most attracts them to another person. Having the body of a God is all well and good, but if you don’t have the confidence behind the muscles then 9 times out of 10 you aren’t going to attract a great deal.
So for any of our members who worry that they don’t have the perfect body, all we can say is ‘fuck it!’ It doesn’t matter in the long run just so long as you are comfortable with who you are and what you want.
Happy fucking!
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