Finding out exactly what a woman wants when it comes to sex is like finding the holy grail for most straight men (myself included). But how good are we when it comes to actually reading what a woman wants? Many women would happily say ‘fucking useless!’ but then an equal amount of men would say women don’t really know what a guy wants either.
We spoke to one woman who’s had a lot of experience with dating and casual sex. Below are a few of her tips for men who don’t know how to approach the subject of casual sex with a woman. Read and absorb!
The Rules – according to a professional Wing-Woman
1. Approach each woman with respect and honesty
The mistake a lot of men make according to our guru is to try and lead women into believing they want to be their boyfriend or partner. This is ultimately self defeating when looking for a casual hook up. What most girls really want is for the man to respect them enough to tell them they’re like them but that they’re not looking for a girlfriend at the moment. Most men think women won’t have sex with them because of this, but it is an utter falsehood. A woman is more likely to respect your honesty and find you more attractive because of it.
2. There’s a difference between being confident and being a dick
You know you always see those guys with model type girls hanging off their arms even though you know those guys are complete dickheads? Well for women it is easy to confuse confidence with arrogance which is why a lot of girls end up sleeping with ‘total dickheads!’ in their own words. But you don’t have to be a dick to sleep with women. All you need to show is your confident attitude towards her and show her that you like her enough to want to sleep with her. Reward her when she does something you like and ignore her when she’s rude because she thinks it’s cute. By doing this, you will bypass all her silly little shit tests she has locked into her brain and make her like you all the more for it. You don’t have to be dick, you just need to be confident with yourself and what you want.
3. Experiment
Casual sex is the best time to try all those filthy things you’ve had in your mind but were always afraid to try with your girlfriend. Because there is low to no commitment in casual sex, it is the perfect arena to try new techniques and positions. Don’t be shy! Women want you to have the confidence to try!
4. Respect her, but don’t act like her boyfriend
Being respectful is different to acting in a manner contrary to the nature of casual sex. Acting like your fuck buddy’s boyfriend is not going to win you any medals or brownie points. What it will do is confuse, potentially mislead, annoy and hurt a fuck buddy. This is a human being you’re dealing with. Just like you, they have their own emotional strengths and weaknesses. Don’t try to act like a boyfriend because you think it’s what they want – it isn’t! Fucking about with people’s feelings and desires is not cool. You wouldn’t want someone to do it to you, so don’t do it to anyone else.
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