If you had a sexual partner you were at one point having really great sex, and when I say great sex I mean outstanding sex... at least that is what it felt like at the time. This is an important foundation point to make in this article. It is what you felt at the time. Ultimately when it comes to sex what you feel is the only thing that matters. What is amazing sex to you may well be terrible sex to someone else. What is a huge turn on for you is a bucket of water to someone else. The important thing is to remember that the joy of sex is experiential – it is what you ultimately feel that matters regardless of the why. So for example, maybe the sex was amazing because you just hadn’t had sex in so long that like water to a thirsty man no matter the nature of it, it was great! Regardless start by trusting that you are not remembering things wrong – you were having amazing sex at one time.
So you were having it at one point – but now you are not. For some reason things have tailed off, gotten stale, you have fallen out of the habit of having sex, there could be any number of reasons why you are no longer having sex.
Do you care?
If you are perfectly happy with this situation that stop reading this now. If you are happy it doesn’t care what anyone else thinks. Do not chase something just because everyone else thinks you should have it. You are happy – then give yourself a break and enjoy it! If you are not happy and you do care about it, then read on...
Are you better off going elsewhere?
Before you try and reignite sex in a barren environment, remember the easiest thing to do is to go elsewhere to someone who already wants to have sex with you. Changing anyone’s mind about anything is tricky, changing someone’s emotion is even harder. So ask yourself do you really want to go through the effort? If the answer is no, just jump online and find a fuck buddy right now. If the answer is yes read on to the last paragraph.
My Top Tip to Sexual Ignition
I give one technique here. Memory recall. When we as humans remember something that we did in the past, when we recall what was going on, when we can see with our minds eye what we saw, and hear what we heard – the brain doesn’t know the difference. The brain re experiences what we experienced at that time – and thus goes to the same thinking pattern and more importantly the same *emotion*. If you recall when it was good – it will help bring back the excitement and thus the sex.
It works only in the short term
This is not a long term solution – but it can help to spring board you back into the sack.
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