We all want a little excitement in our lives, and we all want things to change and be different, new and interesting all the time. It is part of a basic human need, and this is not different when it comes to having sex. We want to get laid, but when we fuck we want to be in the moment, for it to feel like this is unique in some way. If when we fuck it feels the same as the last time we fucked (and the time before that) this will get pretty unstimulating pretty quickly. No one wants to be having routine sex, take the bins out on the Wednesday, have sex on the Thursday. So how can we combat this?
Well the way to combat this is to do something different in the bedroom. “but I am not creative in that way” you may think or even “I don’t want to do anything kinky”. So let’s address this immediately. You don’t have to do anything too kinky. You can if you want to, many people have great fun playing with all sorts of things whilst having sex: food, candles, a little rope can go a long way! All of that is great if you are having fun – but only because you are having fun. Doing it for only the other person doesn’t work unless you are a really good faker – and few people are. So what can you do?
Do something different with sex – anything
Changing anything will work – and I really mean this – almost anything. Do it in a different place, or at a different time. Do it on the floor instead of the bed. Buy new colour sheets and then have fun “breaking in” the new sheets. Anything different will work.
Do something silly
Doing something silly may not seem sexy – but the point here is variation. So if you think that you would have fun doing it, then go for it! Commit to the enjoyment of it and the other person will also have a great time! If you want to have sex then press play on a pre rigged sound system to play “I just had sex” by Akon and dance around the room – go for it! It doesn’t matter as long as you enjoy it – they will too!
Do something spontaneous
I can’t give you examples because the point of doing something in the moment is exactly that – you are doing it in the moment. If something strikes you as fun or silly or interesting or you just want to do it – go for it. Spontaneous thoughts in the moment are rarely wrong. Mix it up and go for it.
So if you want to keep sex good, keep surprising the other person – and also remember to surprise yourself too!
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