There are many people that have a fantasy about having sex in places other than the bedroom. My instinct was to say sex in “unusual” places, but in reality I do not think that having sex outside the bedroom is actually that unusual a thing! I think that most people have done it elsewhere at least a few times, and I certainly feel that the more memorable sex sessions that people have had in their lives often include at least one encounter simply because it was somewhere that was a little unusual. So what is the appeal in sex elsewhere?
The Taboo
One of the key things is the Taboo of it. We spend most of our lives being “good”, obeying the rules, observing social etiquette and social protocol. Ensuring that our actions do not impose upon other people in any way – we focus on not causing a negative outcome for others but this always actually spills over to stuff that would turn out to be positive were we to have the gumption to go ahead and take action to do them despite socially conditioned reservations.
Having sex in a location that is any way a shared space breaks a taboo – and that is exciting! It is a little “dangerous” as there is the danger of a backlash/repercussion if you were caught. The greater the level of danger the more exciting it is.
If you have never had sex in a public place or outside the bedroom I suggest that you start by just doing it in a room other than the bedroom, for example the kitchen. This is a great stepping stone. You can ensure that no one else is around and that you are not going to be interrupted, so that danger is removed, but your inner sense of Taboo will still kick in and you will get the benefit of the excitement of the unusually had sex.
Being Bad
This is a huge thing! Emotion is what lends power to experience, it doesn’t matter if that emotion is “positive” or “negative”, simply that the presence of strong emotion brings power. Being bad brings with it strong emotion that can bring extra excitement, fun and a higher level of being turned on and therefore orgasm. Doing it outside the bedroom for a lot of people is super naughty, and therefore “bad”. Being bad is good!!
It becomes a clothes rippingly, animal like sexually charged session
When you have sex with someone in the bedroom, it has a certain feeling of being planned. When you have sex with someone in an unusual place what it says to the other person is that you want them so much that you cannot wait till you get them home. You want their body so badly, that instead you are forced by your desire for them to rip their clothes from their body and take them there and then despite the odd place. Expressing that much desire for another human being raises the sexual tension to such a high degree, that it cannot help but become anything other than a most charged of sexual encounters.
If you haven’t cashed in on this before, time to get involved. If you have and are looking for something fun to bring some extra kick – this is a great way forward. If you are the master of this – keep doing what you are doing – good job!!!
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