When it comes to sex, it is all about the sensations. I am talking very specifically here for a moment about the physical act of having sex. I am not talking about the emotional side, the spiritual side or even the logical thought based approach. I am talking about the raw, primal pleasurable side of it. I am talking about when you want to fuck.
When you take this approach and all you want to do is really fuck the other person / be fucked, then we are talking about tapping into the primordial drive that lives inside all of us. It is about channelling that, and then removing all the barriers that we have built up that stop that from manifesting. All the social conditioning, all the sense of politeness and propriety, all the prim and properness with which we live our day to day lives. We take all of those things, and we either carefully place them to one side, or more likely we allow them to be pushed to one side by the raging river of desire that we have unleashed when we open the flood gates within us. We all have that waiting and we have all tapped it. So when you are with someone whom you want to achieve this with, how do you hot things up in the bedroom for them in order to help facilitate this? Consider playing with heat.
There are an unlimited number of things you can do in the bedroom, from adding sounds through the form of music or soundtracks, to the more direct approach of images through the watching of porn together. I am talking about a much less used factor – heat.
Playing with temperature changes can be extremely powerful when it comes to making the body respond to your touch... and this is the key to it. It’s not about having the overall temperature high or low, it is about changing the relative temperature against the skin. So for example, if you ever want to quickly bring a nipple to a more erect position, place a hold hand/touch on it and you will quickly see it go from soft to hard. The opposite is true for the penis! A very cold touch on the penis will make it shrink and retract!
The use of ice cubes in the bedroom is a great way to play with extreme temperatures and the changing of temperatures really quickly. The easiest way to counter this is to also have some candles lit and to hand. Not only do they add great mood lighting to the room, they also allow you to simply hold your hand over them for a few seconds and boom you have a warm hand with heated skin ready to be deployed where ever you would like to strike.
So play with temperature – you will find it can really heat things up if used correctly.
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