Every person has an ideal sex partner. For some people that is someone that they are in a full-time relationship with, for others it is a non-monogamous set up and takes the form of finding a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits. We are all different, so what we want out of that person also varies hugely. Some of us want someone to lead and be dominating, others want someone to dominate. Some of us want someone very vanilla, someone with little imagination that likes routine and enjoys things when they are simple and without complication. Then there are the drama seekers of the world, people who need things to be spicy, rocky, and constantly in flux. They need the drama, they seek the excitement and enjoyment that comes from the instability. These people at this extreme are usually only into short term relationships, they want the excitement that meeting someone new brings, and they are unable to move things onto the next stage of life where things become more routine.
There should be no judgement on what type of person you are when it comes to sex, for truly, it matters not. The key is finding that person with whom you can share that which you desire. It is not about finding someone the same as you, but about finding the person that wants to be the balancing factor to you, the yin to your yang. If you are dominating, finding someone that wants to be dominated is giving them the gift of the person that they have always been looking for. You are giving them the same thing that they are giving you, the perfect fuck buddy.
It takes time and effort to find the perfect sex partner. When you first meet people you simply may not get on, if you do often you may not be attracted to each other. If you are attracted to each other you may not be sexually compatible, and if you are compatible are you really right for each other? Are you ready and willing to take each other to the depths of passion that you both deserve? It is rare that you find this in the first person that you sleep with, though it is entirely possible. Often you have to meet many people before you find the fuck buddy that really makes you want to come more than anyone you have met before. It is well worth the time and effort though, because once you have them, you will get to “have” them as much as your appetite demands, because they will want to be “had” just as much as you do.
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