Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we help you find the no strings attached relationship that you are looking for. Everyone wants to both be and find someone sexy. They want to be the sexy, attractive and wanted human being in the room. They want other people to admire and desire them. They want people to want them. They also want to find someone that they feel is sexy, someone that they desire and are attracted to… and they want that person to make them feel sexy by coming on to them. Being hit on is the ultimate validation that you are sexy, but hitting on someone can be hard. It takes bravery and it takes guts, because there is always the possibility of being rejected, something that no one enjoys. Ultimately everyone wants to be sexy.
No one wants to be creepy
No one wants to be creepy. The creepy guy is the guy that is a bit too pervy, a bit too touchy-feely. He is the guy that is hitting on you, and the whole thing is unpleasant, you want him to be away from you as soon as possible. When the creepy guy puts a hand on your arm, shoulder or leg, it feels icky and disgusting. The whole thing feels very unpleasant, and you want it over as soon as possible. No one wants to have the creepy person hit on them, and no one wants to be that creepy guy.
The line between creepy and sexy is often attraction
There are obvious times where someone is sexy. There are clear and easy to identify times where someone is being creepy… hiding in a bush outside someone’s house and watching them with a pair of binoculars is an obvious example of being creepy. However, there is a grey area in the middle where something sexy could be creepy and something creepy could be sexy, and the defining factor is attraction. Let us take an example.
Two people are in a bar, they are chatting and the guy puts his hand on the girls leg. If there is an attraction between them then this is sexy. It is a bold move that takes courage, thus making him seem more sexy for his bravery which is an attractive trait. It also makes her feel sexy as she has a man making clear and obvious moves to say that he finds her attractive. They both win in this situation.
Now the same situation, but this time there is no attraction. The guy puts his hand on the girls leg. Now it is creepy. He has gone where he was not invited. She does not want to be touched so intimately and he is doing it anyway. She probably wants out but does not instantly know how to deal with it. Meanwhile the guy is loving the contact… which means, even though he does not necessarily know it he is taking pleasure at her discomfort. This is creepy.
The only difference here is the attraction levels. So what can you do about it? Well you can try and be more sensitive to the signs. Being bold is good, but if you make a move like putting a hand on someone’s leg and they do not like it, retract it and then give them a little space. You can even be honest and call it if you wanted to and apologise. There is no attraction so you are not going to end up as fuck buddies anyway so you lose nothing by saying sorry.
Best of luck finding your fuck buddy!
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