Online dating in general has its own set of safety rules and advice for users to follow. Finding a fuck buddy is a little different from standard internet dating and whilst there are some commonalities with regards to safety, there are also some differences. As such we would like to explain some of the rules we think you should follow. These have been formulated based on our own personal experiences alongside the recommendations of other people who engage in casual sex.
We hope you find them useful and we strongly recommend that you follow them as closely as possible in order to make your experience on f-buddy as safe and fun as it should be.
1. Begin Slowly
This is true of online dating in general, but it has a particular relevance to finding a fuck buddy. On first glance you would think that hopping into bed with the first good looking guy or girl is supposed to be quick. However wouldn’t you want to make sure that your fuck buddy:
a) Looks like their profile picture
b) Can hold a conversation in person and on the phone and matches the personality you’ve read on the profile
c) Isn’t prone to sudden mood swings which can be a dangerous indicator of passive aggressive behaviour – not what you want with casual sex.
Begin all your communication using the f-buddy site. Trust your instincts; if someone just doesn’t feel right, then they probably aren’t.
2. Anonymity Essential
Hold onto this as you would an expensive piece of jewellery. Well thought out and reasoned decisions often lead to better results. If you suspect someone is lying; they probably are. Don’t reveal too many intimate details about yourself online prematurely. Be responsible about casual sex. Don’t open yourself up to being taken advantage of. At the end of the day you probably don’t want your friends, family or colleagues to know about your casual activities, so be smart and protect yourself.
3. Request a Photo
Sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people fail to do this. The initial photo caught your attention and you may have been chatting to your potential fuck buddy online for a while, but if neither of you trust the other enough to share some photos, then it really isn’t going to go anywhere and you will never know if the person is legitimate or not. We would recommend trying to see several images of someone both by themselves and in casual settings – it helps prove that they are a real human being and not some internet troll out to rip you off or expose you to people. If the other person keeps making excuses then they probably aren’t on the level and have something to hide. A good way to ensure you are talking to a real person (and this ties in with our next point) is to arrange a web cam or video call anonymously. You can both set up accounts under whatever usernames you choose.
4. Talk to the buddy on the phone or on the computer
This ties everything neatly together. You get to see what the other person looks like and see if they can actually hold a verbal conversation effectively. Good communication leads to good sex. You can tell a lot about a person this way and assess their social skills. If the potential fuck buddy isn’t willing then they probably aren’t who they say they are. Report their profile to us and move on.
5. Ready to meet? Only when you’re ready.
You can collect information about a person gradually online which is great as it gives you time to know whether or not you want to strip off and fuck their brains out. Don’t meet up if you have any reservations about the person. Protect yourself and your identity.
6. Meet somewhere safe
Okay so you want to fuck. That’s fine, but we would still recommend meeting in a public place with plenty of other people there just to do a final assessment on one another. If you’re worried about bumping into someone you know from work or from wherever there are 2 things you can do:
a) Arrange to meet somewhere you know it is highly unlikely you will run into someone you know.
b) Or you can meet wherever and if you do run into someone you know, just say you’re meeting someone for a date. Which in a very real sense you are. As we’ve said before, there is nothing to be ashamed about here, but if you are worried about people you know finding out, then you can explain it away easily.
We’re going to talk more about fuck buddy safety tips on a regular basis. It is important all our members feel safe and secure when they use this site and it never hurts to refresh the memory every now and then.
Happy fucking!
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