Sleep with her on the 1st date for zero pressure sex

Stress is the enemy of orgasm. This is an undisputed fact that has long been known and studied by the medical world. If you are super stressed out, there is no way you are going to orgasm. In fact, when in a heightened stress state or point in your life, usually your libido drops to the point where you don’t want to have sex any more. You body is prioritising survival over procreation. It is interpreting the stress to indicate danger and difficulty, and wants you to have all your energy and resources to focus on dealing with whatever that issue is rather than wasting it on procreating. When everything has calmed down and the danger has passed, then and only then do you want to bring children into the world. Of course, modern day stress is not necessarily an indicator of actual danger, but our bodies interpret it in the same way unfortunately. So stress really is the enemy of orgasm. The ideal setting is a 100% stress free environment. So how does this relate to when you first have sex?

First time sex is rarely amazing

You know this to be true – the first time you sleep with someone it is rarely amazing. I mean if you are lucky it is good, but it is very rarely good, and even more unlikely to be great. There are many factors that contribute towards this. You don’t know their body and they do not know yours, you are at the very early stages of truly learning what does and does not turn each other on. You are exploring each other’s bodies for the first time, which whilst exciting is not conducive to playing each other like a sexual violin! Most of all – there is stress in the room. You are doing it for the first time, and as discussed stress is the orgasm killer.

The longer you wait – the more the stress builds

• If you wait till the 10th date to have sex, by the time that you get there there is so much pressure for it to be good, that it will be terrible! The pressure guarantees that it will be bad!
• If you wait till the 5th time that is still a long time, and you are on the stand to perform.
• If you wait till the 3rd date (the traditional number) it is not too bad.
• If you do it on the 1st date – you are laughing! There is so little investment on both sides that the sex is completely stress free, and thus way more likely to be good!

So if first time sex is important to you, do it as early as possible, preferably on the first date!