Sociosexuality

At first glance sociosexuality sounds like a new type of sexual orientation and in a sense, it is. Rather than being an adjective to describe your gender preference sociosexuality refers more to your social attitude towards sex.

What’s the point of discussing it here?
As F-Buddy is a site designed to help people hook up for casual encounters sociosexuality is something very important to look at. It can play a big part in how much or how little you are able to enjoy casual sex. We want everyone who uses this site to enjoy it but the only way to do that is to fully understand what the different approaches to casual sex are. How you engage with one another plays a huge part in whether or not your casual encounter will be just a one night stand or a series of fun and sexy hook ups.

What type of sociosexual are you?
Sociosexuality according to Dr Vrangalova (who coined the term) is determined by your attitude, motivation and past experience of casual sex. Whether you’ve had a negative or positive experience of casual sex has only a partial bearing on your motivation to it. For example if you’re motivated to sleep around with lots of different people to enjoy a wide array of sexual experience then you are far more likely to have a positive attitude and experience. On the other side of the coin are those who are motivated to sleep around out of feelings of revenge (against an ex partner) or low self-esteem. Now you have to ask yourself honestly; which of the two examples best fits your personality?

If you fall into the first example then we would say that your sociosexual attitude is less restrictive and you are more likely to have a high level of self-esteem. If you veer more toward the second example then your sociosexual attitude is likely to be more restrictive and more liable to feelings of hurt. In this instance we would not recommend engaging in casual sex until you are feeling better about yourself.

The correct sociosexual attitude?
There is no correct sociosexual attitude in our opinion. Some people are more comfortable with having sex with only one or two people. Other people are comfortable having sex with a number of different partners and are quite happy to live their lives in this manner. There is no correct attitude. The only advice we would offer is to always ensure you approach sex from a positive place. The more positive in yourself you are, the more likely you are to enjoy a healthy sex life.