How to try bondage for the first time

“I want you to tie me up and do me hard!”

Those words are often music to a man’s ears! But what if you’ve never tried bondage before? You have no idea how your partner wants you to tie them up. You have no idea how they want you to ‘do them’ once you’ve tied them up. What if you cut off their circulation? What if they laugh at you once they see how awful your rope tying skills are? All these questions have plagues every man’s mind whenever the subject of bondage is brought up and they’ve never tried it.

Conquer your fears
Bondage is nothing to be afraid of. Done correctly it can be one of the most erotically powerful sexual acts you can share with a partner. All you need is a little spirit and a sense of humour when you first try it. As long as you have these two things, you’ll be fine. So here’s a quick-fire guide on how to try it for the first time.

1. Make sure you’ve got the right material
Christian Grey might be all the rage but you need to make sure that if you decide to use a tie to tie your lady up, it better be the right kind of tie. You can buy specially made bondage ties online and in sex shops.

2. Try restraints the first time
If you’re not too hot on your rope tying skills, you can always buy a special bondage kit complete with bed restraints and handcuffs. This will allow you to explore your domination fantasies without the fear of you or your partner laughing.

3. Book yourself onto a rope tying class
It’s worth investigating these classes. You can usually find one in your local area – yes bondage has become very popular in the past decade – and the instructors will ensure all your fears are addressed in a safe and fun environment. More importantly they’ll give you the confidence to try rope tying yourself and teach you that it’s okay if you don’t get it right the first time.

4. Start off light and see where it goes
It’s important to remember that sex is always supposed to be fun. Bondage is a part of the performance that can greatly aid sex if done right. Don’t try anything too complicated the first time you give bondage a go. Start light and see where the night takes you.