It happens to all of us at some point. There’s always something that we’re not quite happy about when it comes to sex. Usually it’s to do with our perception of our physical appearance. Below we discuss the top sexual hang ups men and women have and we show you how to overcome them. We want everyone enjoying their sex life as much as possible!
1. Performance Anxiety
This happens with both men and women and is more common than the cold. With women they worry about whether or not they can please their man. Men worry about whether or not they can get an erection and how long they can last before they come.
Treatment: Like most sexual hang ups, this is in your head. Men are primarily concerned with visual and physical stimulation. It doesn’t take much to turn them on. And men should worry less about their erection and more about what they can do to please their partner. Try oral sex before you move on to penetrative sex. If you can get a woman to orgasm before you’ve even had penetrative sex, you really don’t need to worry.
2. Being overly ticklish
It happens a lot; you’re running your hand down a girl’s thigh and all of a sudden, she laughs. Being ticklish is fine. It’s learning when not to let it spoil the mood.
Treatment: Try adjusting the way you touch your partner. If light touches trigger the laughing, try a firmer touch and movement. Communicate with each other and discuss what it is you find ticklish.
3. Poor Body Image
Common amongst men and especially women, poor body image is one of the lead sexual hang ups. If you’re one of those people who prefers sex with the lights off then you may be someone with poor body image.
Treatment: Films and magazines have a lot to answer for when it comes to portraying sex. We are not all unrealistic looking porn stars. We look like normal people and guess what? Normal people are hot! Men love seeing and touching women’s wobbly bits, and girls love copping a good feel of a man’s skin and balls.
4. Uncomfortable with oral sex
Common amongst both sexes, the worry that you won’t be any good at it is the chief reason for the hang up. Another concern especially amongst women is that they worry they might smell ‘down there’ too much.
Treatment: Vaginas and penises smell. Fact. If you maintain good hygiene you really need to stop worrying. A vagina is supposed to smell as it releases pheromones that help drive a man wild before and during sex. A well cleaned penis won’t smell much at all but a man’s spunk will. As for technique, you can look up guides on how to give a good blow job if you’re worried, but mostly the best piece of advice is to not treat his penis like a bell pull. Stroke and caress with your hands and mouth and he’ll be putty in your hands. And guys? A vagina is an easy thing to stimulate using your fingers and tongue. Gently does it is the key here. Start slowly and wait for her juices to start building up before building her to a climax. Also vary your tongue technique – it really helps!
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