Judge people by how they look

When it comes to being sexy and getting laid, how you look makes a huge difference. In the modern world, we may talk a lot about how it the person that matters, that what someone is like in terms of character and attitude is the most important thing. I am not saying that for some people that it is not the most important thing, I am not saying that for many people that it is not an important factor because it is. What I am saying is that we cannot (and should not) ignore the all-important factor of how we look.

At a base level we are still human, we are part of the “animal kingdom” – and that means that it is hard coded into us to judge other “animals” by how they look when we first meet them. It is natural, it is the way that we are made. It is automatic. We as a people try and push away from that, talking about how “looks don’t matter”. Well they do, and I would like to talk about why they do right now.

Before we ever speak to someone, we look at them and we make a judgement call about what they are like. This is a split second decision that happens in the moment, off the cuff. We don’t consciously “think” about it, we just do it. From that point onwards what the person does or does not do or say will change this, but that is the starting point. We begin at what we look like.

If you look “evil” when someone see’s you, you are going to have to work very hard to come back from that. I am not sure what makes someone look “evil”, perhaps a hunched back, a twisted face, an evil grin, and a close resemblance to the joker from batman! Whatever causes it, you are stuck with it. On the flip side if you look lovely when someone first meets you, if you look warm and friendly and helpful and amenable, that impression will also stay with you, you are going to have to work really hard to wreck that impression, to destroy that impression that they have of you.

Looks do matter, and it is important to accept it. We cannot change that, we cannot alter the irrefutable fact that you will be judged by how you look and you will also find yourself judging other people by how they look. So let’s get over ourselves, accept it, and move on.